Thoughts on being in your 30's

LOVE YOURSELF So I have been struggling with this topic for a while now. How to love yourself when there's so many "things" that's telling you how wrong you are. I was over weight for a very long time. There are people that has no problem with that, then there's the ones who completely ruin you. In those times it was the hardest to love myself. Why haven't people figured out how harsh their words can be and how much damage they can do. I have learned that nobody's opinion matters but my own! If I feel beautiful in a mini skirt with my big thighs or big ankles, then to hell with everyone. I love wearing dresses and I do not want to wear a dress that hangs on my ankles and covers me like a table cloth. Two reasons, it's too hot sometimes and I love my Owl Tattoo on my calve. I like to show off what I feel is beautiful. I used to be afraid to wear the clothes I love because of what people might say or maybe I didn't look like another w...

CONTRACEPTION Or as I like to call it "a woman's painful way of being safe" against pregnancy. There are a few options we have not to get pregnant or get a nasty disease. Most of them involve only the female species. I like to talk about things that I've been through myself, so here is my story. I starting using the 2 month injection and in the beginning it worked fine. I was happy with not having to go through my menstrual cycle and the pain and discomfort that brings so on I went. After a few shots I started getting my period for weeks and weeks at a time but I listened to my nurse when she told me to push through. Don't be afraid to go for a second maybe even a third opinion if what you're using isn't working for you.  Well I got fed up. I went to someone else who gave me the implant option and I took it. So while it wasn't sore when they "implanted" the little thing it does hurt afterwards when the life comes back. Apparen...

WRITERS BLOCK So it's been a while since I've blogged anything. I blame my overactive mind and imagination that has so many things running at one time that it all gets too much in the moment I feel the need to sit in front of my computer and write a few coherent sentences it all disappear.  Now all I feel is frustration and the need to throw something across the room. To take my writers block out on something else than myself at this moment. Most of the time I have these amazing ideas of what to write about, you know stuff that really matters but for the last few weeks there has been a vast space of nothingness in my mind when I open my blog to write. The irony is when I get into bed at night I have all these things that keeps me awake and I'm sure there's a lot of people with great ideas at night but you see the moment I start to work on them in my mind I fall asleep. So the next morning when I wake up the nothingness of my creativity has expanded......

THE WRONG LOVE We've all been in love, That wonderful feeling of butterflies in the stomach, smiling for no reason, heart beating faster at just the thought of them. It's a wonderful, awful experience. You fall in love, think about it, fall. Falling for someone with no idea if you're going to land safely in the arms of the one you're falling for. All you want is to be near them, be a part of them, make them smile for the rest of their and your lives. No one can tell me that that isn't the best feeling in the world and also the scariest. I've had my heart broken a few times over the 35 years. I remember the first time I fell in love. I was maybe seven years old. We went on a school camp and my teachers husband came along as one of the drivers I think but oh man did I not follow him around like a third wheel. That's the innocent kind of love that makes you wish it was always that easy. After a day at home I completely forgot about the tall, dark m...

BODY SHAMING As I've mentioned before I'm trying to live a more healthy life. Eating better and exercising to get the unhealthy weight off. Well it worked so far. I have lost some weight and I feel so much better about myself. (some days) One thing I do not understand is why we as woman (I think men does this too they just never will admit to it) will always have something that is "wrong" about our bodies.  A close friend and I have been going through the same struggle for years. We tried weight loss method after another and nothing really seemed to work. She started this eating better and exercising and she lost an impressive amount of weight. I am so proud of her! She really looks amazing and still the both of us have those days where nothing about our bodies seems to be right. My thighs are too BIG, my feet is too small, my nose it too pointy and my butt is too flat. Does that sound familiar? Yeah, we all do it. We have some part that we really dislike...

I GOT THIS There comes a time, maybe a few times, when you feel you just can't do it. You're not up for the challenge, you haven't got what it takes, you can't "man up" or wear your big girl panties and do it. It's not uncommon to feel less than qualified to do something, anything that you set your mind to or that which was given to you to do. We all have that "oh crap" moment when people expect something from you and you do not feel up to the task. Sometimes it just makes more sense not to work toward something or tell someone you can do it than failing and falling on your face. Well, that's not true. Isn't it better to have tried and fail than to not try and never knowing what you are capable of doing. I've had that situation where I thought I am not good enough to do this, I am not qualified and I can't. And you know what, that which I have made myself to believe was what happened. I didn't try anymore, I ju...

SINGLE IN 2017 So I am thirty five years old and I am single. Why is that so hard to admit, why in this day and age all that everyone expects of us is to be in a relationship. Because being alone means you're lonely? Being single means no one wants you? You're single because your baggage is too much to handle? You know what I think of that, bullshit... To all of it. Just because you're single doesn't mean you're lonely, I know many people who love their own company (present company included). Just because you're single doesn't mean no one wants you or you're too much too handle, it just means that you haven't met that one person who sees all of you and wants it all. Okay so I have a few people in my life who thinks I'm just full of nonsense when it comes to men. They say I have too many expectations and I should just take the one that comes along who shows interest. With that in mind I could have been married, maybe even more than on...